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"I am master of my own destiny, and I can make my life anything that I wish it to be." ~ Roger McDonald
What would it mean to have mastery over your life?
What would it mean to have mastery over your life? Proficiency in the sense that you've mastered almost all aspects of yourself to live life as your happiest, most abundant, and most authentically expressed self. Sounds too good to be true, right? However, a significant level of self-mastery can occur if you understand the inner workings of the three parts of you. See, every being is composed of three parts, mind, body, and spirit. Or, more specifically, the inner child, the ego, and the higher self. Self-mastery is achieved by obtaining a solid understanding and working knowledge of these three aspects and having the willingness and sheer determination to use them to achieve said mastery.
So how can you best harness these three parts of yourself to gain a noticeable level of mastery over your life? Hundreds of books are available describing the three in incredible detail, and you can spend countless hours reading that material if you want. However, you don't need an in-depth dissertation on each to begin using them to tweak the aspects of yourself you'd like to finetune. If you desire to start creating lasting change in your life, then read on for a fundamental understanding of the three and how you can use them effectively to reprogram the limiting beliefs holding you back from rebelliously living your best life.
Ego ~ First, the ego. Almost always, much of the information available regarding the ego presents it as the show's star in the play of life and paints it in a relatively negative light. However, the ego is much more your friend than your enemy. The ego is the body, or flesh, and is nothing more than how you've learned to identify in this physical world. Using the subconscious mind, which keeps an ongoing record of your life, the ego creates the identity you present to the world based on the beliefs you obtain from your experiences. It also attempts to protect you from negative future experiences using said beliefs. For example, you've probably burned yourself on a stove at least once. The impression you got and stored in your subconscious mind from that experience is what instructs your ego to yank your hand away the next time you're near a hot stove, protecting you from having that experience again.
The most significant thing about the ego and the subconscious mind is that they are in a constant state of evolution. Every moment of your life, you are expanding your mind and consciousness, whether you realize it or not. The ever-expansion of the subconscious mind is what makes consciously working with the ego so powerful because, with every experience, you are either creating new beliefs or solidifying old ones, as in the case of the hot stove. These beliefs are what teach your ego how to identify, which creates the persona you present to the world. In essence, the ego is the identity that shows up in the world and who protects your inner child.
In essence, the ego is the identity that shows up in the world and who protects your inner child.
Inner Child ~ The inner child is who you are at your core before your ego has the opportunity to color the perception you have of yourself based on the beliefs stored in your subconscious mind. Your inner child is how you see the world in a free and unfiltered way. It's you before the fears, limitations, and restrictions put on yourself by your perceived view of the world. Your inner child is who you are before any past experiences taught you who you couldn't be. Notice the present tense. Your inner child is not an entity from your past. It's always here, ever-present, waiting for its opportunity to reveal its authentic self to the world.
Your inner child is who you are at your happiest, most genuine self. Your creative or sport-related ability, your affinity for math or science, your innate desire to write books or dance; without outside influence, everything that makes you uniquely you is your inner child. It's the part of you that still needs the acceptance, approval, and encouragement all children need. Your inner child is the true you before the beliefs you acquired from your experiences, and the people involved that shape your life.
For example, say two boys have identical sporting abilities, but one is supported and encouraged, and the other's family is unsupporting and demeaning. The one supported and encouraged will likely be the most successful in that sport out of the two and will learn to identify with the positive beliefs he obtained as a result of the encouragement he received. The other may end up with inner child wounds and limiting beliefs, causing him to repress aspects of himself due to being discouraged from his passion. The beliefs impressed and stored in the subconscious mind as a result of your experiences, good or bad, are what cause your ego to identify with and confidently express your redeeming traits and repress the aspects you don't feel comfortable or safe expressing. Your ego is the persona you created to keep your inner child safe and protected in the world.
Your ego is the persona you created to keep your inner child safe and protected in the world.
Higher Self ~ We are all mind, body, and spirit. Your Higher Self is the spiritual portion of that trinity. The inner child is the totality of your authentic self and represents the mind. The ego is the body, how you've learned to identify and how you protect yourself in the world. Your Higher Self is the portion of you that resides in the spiritual realm and represents the highest potential version of you. Your Higher Self is your connection to the Divine, the Spirit of God, or the Oneness that encompasses everything in existence.
What's crucial to know about your Higher Self is that it bears no judgment, as it knows that all things connect to Oneness. Meaning it doesn't pass judgment or label experiences as good or bad and will support anything in which you put your energy and focus. Your Higher Self will always guide you toward the path that will lead you to your best life, but it will never force you. Source or Your Higher Self will always require you to exercise your free will and consciously choose whether or not to oblige. It will not stop you if you prefer to do something other than what is for your highest. Your Higher Self is like a personal battery back that provides energy for all you choose while always directing you back toward your highest path.
Your Higher Self is like a personal battery back that provides energy for all you choose while always directing you back toward your highest path.
So how can you work with the three parts of you to create the version of yourself you've always wanted to be? Well, as previously stated, your Higher Self will always lead you toward your best path and apply energy toward wherever you put your focus. Your inner child is who you tap into to identify where you picked up limiting beliefs, discover your most authentic self, and align with your heart's most genuine desires. Your ego is where you do the work to release those limiting beliefs, integrate the aspects of yourself you repress, and clearly define and articulate for your ego who you want to be, thereby reprogramming it to identify with the new.
People refer to this as shadow work, creating a relationship with all three parts of you and consciously doing the work to maintain that relationship. Think of it as falling in love with yourself and doing everything you have to do to ensure the success of that relationship. Maintaining the relationship with your inner child, your ego, and your Higher Self should be just as important to you as your marriage or relationship with a significant other or family member.
In the same way, you create boundaries, show affection, maintain healthy communication, and take accountability for your actions in any relationship; it is the same way you would maintain a relationship and create synergy with the three parts of you. Consciously maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself, creating boundaries, showing affection, maintaining healthy communication, and being accountable to yourself, is how you obtain mastery over your life.
In the same way, you create boundaries, show affection, maintain healthy communication, and take accountability for your actions in any relationship; it is the same way you would maintain a relationship and create synergy with the three parts of you.
There is much information available online on how to do shadow work, but at the end of the day, it's really just a matter of putting in the work. The process is not as convoluted as some sources make it sound. It's just a matter of maintaining a healthy relationship with the three parts of you.
If you are ready to start or continue the work on your self-love journey and could use some pointers, check out our 10 Tips for Effective Shadow Work.
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