Heading into this holiday weekend I’d like to start by expressing my love and gratitude for our Beloved Ancestors who endured so much for us to be where we are today.
What a fitting and appropriate time to talk about the altitude of gratitude. Yes, that is spelled correctly. The altitude of gratitude. A bit of a different take on the familiar phrase the “attitude of gratitude”. Now while there is certainly benefit in keeping and maintaining an attitude of gratitude, the challenge is in remembering the altitude of gratitude. Allow me to explain.
You may be familiar with Abraham Hicks’ Emotional Guidance Scale, pictured above. If not, then it is a scale of emotions that range from the worst (fear, grief, depression, powerlessness, victim), to the best of what we can feel as humans (joy, knowledge, empowerment, freedom, love, appreciation). Abraham teaches that knowing where you are on this scale at any given moment, can help you identify where you are vibrationally. The higher you are on the scale, the higher you are vibrating.
The higher you are on the scale, the higher you are vibrating.
So how do you move up the emotional scale? Well having a visual aide to look at is nice because it gives you an idea of how quickly you can get from where you currently are to your desired emotional state, or how many “emotional steps” it may take. However, when you look into how to go from one step to the next, the advice can seem rather antidotal. It ranges from having fun, traveling more and volunteering to changing your social circle, doing yoga and expressing gratitude.
However, when you look into how to go from one step to the next, the advice can seem rather antidotal.
Now all of these are wonderful for the occasional one or two step dip in the scale. When you can practice some self care or take a little vacation and all is well with the world again. But what about when it’s not an occasional dip? What if you’ve been in an extended season of bouncing between the last two or three rings on the scale? Maybe it’s been weeks, months, or even years and you can no longer see a way up the scale. You’re not even capable of having fun or could care less about traveling.
You may do things out of obligation to family or friends, but you go home and find yourself right back in the same place on the emotional scale. When you’ve been in a long held season of disappointment, worry or doubt, you could care less about doing yoga or finding a new circle of friends. When you are riddled with fear, grief or depression, hearing you should express more gratitude seems like an exercise in futility. Trust me, I know. I’ve been there.
When you are riddled with fear, grief or depression, hearing you should express more gratitude seems like an exercise in futility.
This is where I encourage you to remember the altitude of gratitude. Gratitude isn’t just as simple as looking around and finding something to be thankful for. Think of gratitude as an emotional elevator. It’s the only emotion that can get you from one step to the next. And just like an elevator, it goes both ways, up and down. Gratitude really is THE great equalizer on the emotional scale.
Gratitude really is THE great equalizer on the emotional scale.
Think about it, you can’t move from hating what someone did to you to feeling disappointment about it by expressing more hate. Worrying about your situation and expressing more worry will never move you to a higher emotional state, such as pessimism. Expressing more powerlessness and victimhood when you’re in those emotional states, will never move you to doubt, disappointment or anywhere else that’s higher on the emotional scale.
And it works both ways, you can’t be enthusiastic about an opportunity and expect it to work out without expressing true gratitude for where you are. You’ll become pessimistic or start to worry. You can’t be passionate about your relationship without showing sincere gratitude, eventually you’ll fall to boredom or frustration. You will never remain in a state of true love and appreciation just by expressing your love and appreciation. You have to express your sincerest gratitude always. You have to hold on to gratitude and allow it to pull you up. It’s the altitudes where gratitude can take you that keep you in alignment with your highest emotional state. It’s when you begin feeling less grateful that you start going back down the emotional scale.
So yes I admit, finding and holding on to gratitude is much easier the higher you are on the emotional scale. But what do you do when you are closer to the bottom? What do you do when it’s been an extended period of time and you are struggling to find something to be grateful about? You HODL to the altitude of gratitude.
You HODL to the altitude of gratitude.
A little funny for the crypto enthusiast. But wait, what about what they did to you? I know.. it may go against everything in you but be grateful for what they did. Eventually you will begin feeling empowered by finding gratitude in what it taught you, as well as your resilience, power and strength. Jealous and angry about how your father’s other family destroyed yours? Find gratitude in what that may have taught you about honesty, commitment and fidelity. Allow that gratitude to move you up to hopefulness and optimism.
And if you find yourself in a situation that has you feeling fearful, depressed and powerless, and you can’t find anything to be grateful for, I encourage you to ponder these final thoughts:
First, remember that God has given you free will.
First, remember that God has given you free will. Free will to think a different thought, develop a different belief or take a different action. So even when you don’t have the courage to take a different action or aren’t strong enough to have a different belief, you can always think a different thought. Holding on to one positive thought, will lead to other positive thoughts, and over time will snowball. Eventually these thoughts will lead to better beliefs and more constructive actions. You can always express gratitude for your God given free will to choose a different thought.
and lastly, remember to be grateful for your breath.
And lastly, for those moments where you’re buried so deep that even finding a different thought is difficult, pause, close your eyes, breathe deeply, and remember to be grateful for your breath. Your breath is a constant reminder of your connection with the Creator of all that is. It’s a reminder of how highly God thinks of you, to have gifted the world with a YOU. Your breath is a beautiful reminder of the power of the Creator, the power within you to use your free will, and your power to choose another thought. So if for nothing else but your breath, let that thought be gratitude. Hold on to it fiercely and allow the altitude of gratitude to slowly start pulling you back up the emotional scale. The world needs you. You are loved. The Creator of all that is loves you and I love you too.
The world needs you. You are loved.
The Rebellious Gem